My Personal Book Recommendations

The following is my personal list of recommended books for parents and parents-to-be.

They are not all classical “parenting books”, however they are all in tune with the philosophy I believe in, and the way I teach and coach parents.

In order to introduce each book, I chose one significant quote of the book, and added a short description.

1

"The Individual Psychology of Alfred Adler"

(by Heinz L. Ansbacher and Rowena R. Ansbacher)

“Everything can also be different”.

Alfred Adler believed that what matters most is not what happens to us, but the meaning we give to the events that happen to us. This book contains all the Adlerian theory and is, at times, not an easy read, yet noteworthy for people who wish to expand their knowledge on Adlerian and positive psychology.

2

“Children: The Challenge”

(by Rudolf Dreikurs and Vicky Stolz)

“A misbehaving child is a discouraged child”.

Dreikurs, Adler’s follower, spreads the Adlerian theory out in a very comprehensible and practical way. He goes through all the themes that challenge parents and educators, and gives many examples and tools on how to: put proper boundaries, discipline, sibling rivalry and how to educate emotionally healthy and well adapted children.

3

“Man’s search for Meaning”

(by Viktor E. Frankl)

“Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms – to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way”.

This book is Frankl’s testimony of what he endured in the camps, during the Holocaust. Through his personal story, Frankl developed a new and revolutionary psychotherapeutic approach - “Logotherapy”. Logotherapy arises from the fact that a person’s primary motivation is to find meaning and purpose in life.

4

“Emotional Intelligence”

(by Daniel Goleman)

“Helping people better manage their upsetting feelings - anger, anxiety, depression, pessimism, and loneliness - is a form of disease prevention”.

In his ground-breaking book, Goleman describes why knowing how to regulate emotions, is so crucial in living a satisfying life. We can genuinely learn to be better at adjusting our emotions. This will improve our relationships, and therefore our general well-being.

5

“Learned Optimism”

(by Martin E. P. Seligman)

“One of the most significant findings in psychology in the last twenty years is that individuals can choose the way they think”.

Seligman explains how we can change our lives for the better, just by changing how we interpret and look at situations. This relates to the audacious idea that one can choose to change his emotions, and consequently, change his life.

6

“The gifts of imperfection”

(by Brene Brown)

“Children most often learn hope from their parents. Snyder says that to learn hopefulness, children need relationships that are characterized by boundaries, consistency and support”.

Through her personal story and research on vulnerability, Brown explains how crucial it is to live a life with empathy and self-love. This in turn, will be the basis to have meaningful relationships, and live a life of purpose and authenticity.

7

“The Sibling Effect”

(by Jeffrey Kluger)

“From the time we’re born, our brothers and sisters are our collaborators and co-conspirators, our role models and our cautionary tales. They are our scolds, protectors, goads, tormentors, playmates, counselors, sources of envy, objects of pride. They help us learn how to resolve conflicts and how not to; how to conduct friendships and when to walk away from them”.

In this absolutely charming and intelligent book Kluger shares his personal family story, entangles with up-to-date research on the subject of sibling rivalry. If you are the parent of more than one child, you will acquire many tools and insights on that special bond, that ties brothers and sisters together.

8

“It’s ok not to Share… And other Renegade Rules

for Raising Competent and Compassionate Kids”

(by Heather Shumaker)

“It’s ok not to Share….” (!!!!!)

The content of the book is as intelligent as its title, and offers tons of accurate information and practical tools to parents, regarding all the subjects of concern: from the importance of free play, to what is “appropriate” play, sharing, how to handle strong emotions, set proper boundaries and much more.

A must read for parents!

9

“The gift of failure”

(by Jessica Lahey)

“Every time we rescue, hover, or otherwise save our children from a challenge, we send a very clear message: that we believe they are incompetent, incapable, and unworthy of our trust”.

In this brilliant book Lahay tells the story of one of today’s biggest parental challenges: overprotecting children and thus, not allowing them to fail. She gives practical advice and strategies on how to educate children to be more autonomous and self-sufficient, and therefore with a higher sense of self-worth and success in their lives.

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