It's not Fair
It’s not fair… She got more cornflakes… Why did he get new shoes… I also want a treat… it’s my turn to sit in the middle… He got a bigger...
Barbara Harcavi
Parenting Coach & Couples Counselor
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She carries it well...
Just because she carries it well Doesn’t mean it isn’t heavy…. (C) Noelle Mirabella To all the mothers out there, I just wanted to say...
Children see, Children do
Don't tell your children to be polite – Show them how you speak kindly to others. Don’t tell your children to share – Make sure they see...
Rewards are the same as Punishments
How do I teach my child to not hit his little brother, to tidy up after she made a mess, to speak respectfully, to just listen to me, to...
Help! My Toddler is Biting
FIRST: Make sure there is no underlying condition like a speech delay, a developmental delay, SPD, or just teething and gum sensitivity....
Childhood is not a race
Magda Gerber very wisely said that: "Childhood is not a race to see how quickly a child can read, write and count. It is a small window...
Tantrums
We all know those challenging moments we say “no” to our child, or things don’t exactly turn out like she/he had in mind, and here starts...
Listening to our Children
If you don’t listen to the little stuff when they are little, they won’t tell you the big stuff when they are big…. Sometimes it’s really...
“Couples counseling” becomes “divorce counseling” when we wait too long…
The average couple waits 6 years before seeking help for marital issues. (The Gottman Institute) Unfortunately “couples counseling”...
Change the story of your child, by just changing ONE word.
My child is not “stubborn”, he is “determined”. She is not “bossy”, but “a natural leader”… and so forth. Our children learn who they are...
It's not our job to make our kids happy....
It’s our job to hold space for them when they are sad, angry, frustrated or disappointed. It’s our job to set limits, boundaries, and say...
Boundaries?
Parents frequently ask me to work on setting boundaries to their children and I definitely offer many tools on how to do that. Although...
What is damaging to your relationship?
The Gottman Institute identified 4 communication styles, that are extremely damaging to relationships, and actually predict with great...
Stop making Children feel Bad
"You can't teach children to behave better by making them feel worse. When Children feel better, they behave better”. (Pam Leo) So many...
Celebrate the Child you have
One of the greatest lessons I learned in parenting is to let go of the child I thought I'll have, and CELEBRATE the one I have. We all...
Raising a Shy Child
Having a “shy” child is a HUGE CONCERN for many parents… But we are all somewhere on the scale between extroversion and introversion,...
The Quality of our Relationships
“The Harvard Grant Study – The longest longitudinal study ever undertaken (for more than 75 years) – concludes that the key to a happier...
Parenting Differences
All parents have parenting differences. A few guidelines on how to restrain those sometimes-complex situations: My favorite rule is “one...
Parenting is not about controlling your child
Parenting is not about controlling your child, it's about controlling yourself. Parenting is not about changing your child, it’s about...
Which kind of partner are you?
"Be the kind of partner you want your kid to have as their own partner one day" is probably the best advice I received from my own...
How can I help my child develop self-esteem?
One-minute video parenting tip
Do the best you can!
Do the best you can until you know better. Then when you know better, do better” Maya Angelou Parenting is a process, a very long journey...
Tantrums!
One-minute video parenting tip
How do I parent my teenager??
Parents of teens sometimes feel confused, helpless, or “what used to work, doesn’t work anymore….”!! We definitely need to recalculate...