barbaraharcaviWhat is damaging to your relationship?The Gottman Institute identified 4 communication styles, that are extremely damaging to relationships, and actually predict with great...
barbaraharcaviDo the best you can!Do the best you can until you know better. Then when you know better, do better” Maya Angelou Parenting is a process, a very long journey...
barbaraharcaviOur children are learning about relationships by watching usChildren learn about relationships by observing their parents. Think about your daily interactions with your partner: How do you disagree...
barbaraharcaviLet's get married“Let's get married and have kids so instead of a lazy Saturday morning we can panic because a sports uniform didn't get put in the...
barbaraharcaviThe 2 buckets of our childrenBefore becoming a psychotherapist, Alfred Adler was a medical doctor that firmly believed in PREVENTION (instead of TREATMENT). Adlerian...
barbaraharcaviFor Things to Change, YOU must Change Yes making changes in your parenting IS HARD WORK, but it will be beneficial on the long run. Parenting is taking care of “the long run”...
barbaraharcaviFive interesting Facts about my work as an Adlerian Parenting Coach:1. MEN particularly connect to the Adlerian approach, because it’s a very practical and logical method, with lots of explanations on how...
barbaraharcaviHow can we increase our Children's Resilience?“Just when the caterpillar thought her life was over, she began to fly”…. I hear lots of parents talk about the fact that, after...
barbaraharcaviEmphasize the PositiveWhen you keep criticizing your kids, they don’t stop loving you, they stop loving themselves. According to the Adlerian theory criticism...
barbaraharcaviBoundaries are LoveWhen you set firm boundaries to your children, you are telling them: You can go up until here, because over there it is dangerous, and I...
barbaraharcaviChildren are great ImitatorsHow much time are you spending on screens? How do you care about your body? Do you always say hello to your neighbors? How do you handle...
barbaraharcaviA misbehaving Child...."A Misbehaving Child is a Discouraged Child" (Richard Dreikurs) I have written a lot on the importance of ENCOURAGEMENT, and its...
barbaraharcaviIt's about the Relationships in a FamilySo many parents ask me about the PRINCIPLES I work with…? Parental coaching is mostly about OUR DAILY LIVES as parents, and about THE...
barbaraharcaviDoes One Size really fits all in Parenting?Parenting is the easiest thing in the world to have an opinion about, but the hardest thing in the world to do. Matt Walsh Breastfeed...
barbaraharcaviAllow your Children to failIt is not what you do for your children, but what you have taught them to do for themselves that will make them successful human beings....