An Abnormal Reaction to an Abnormal Situation is normal behavior. Viktor Frankle
I have written many posts in the past, guiding parents of young children on how to navigate challenging times, here in Israel…. But this time is different. It’s devastating and scarier.
So before I even lay out a few modest tips, I would like everyone to understand that any behavior is fine and “normal” right now.
I look around and see many people reacting differently - from constantly volunteering, to being petrified, cutting of the news, watching all day long, meeting with friends, wanting to be alone, leaving the country, or flying back in….
Let’s just embrace and be empathic to each and everyone around us.
Now, for those of you who are (again), kind of locked at home with kids, with the supplement of extreme stress, anxiety, grief and sadness….
Let’s remember to:
Put the oxygen mask on yourself first! In order to care for your children, YOU need to be ok, so breathe, speak to someone, exercise, eat…. Do anything you can to take care of YOURSELF.
Use “anchors” and routine to give your children a sense of CONTROL – eat together, and at fixed times, same bedtime and wake up every day, morning / afternoon activities,…..
TALK with your children about the situation – Let them lead, allowing any question, answer truthfully, but age-appropriated, and accept all feelings to pop up (also laughter and giggles….).
MOVE – go to the playground, short walks, outdoors.
Encourage and help your children to MEET and PLAY with other kids – schoolmates, friends, neighbors, cousins, older or younger.
Praying and hoping for a quick and immediate return of all our hostages.
Remember that eventually, we will get out of this disaster - stronger and more united.