New beginnings
Many parents ask me in fear: “Is it too late”? “Did I really mess everything up, beyond repair, with me kids”?? My answer is: NO, you...
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Barbara Harcavi
Parenting Coach & Couples Counselor
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Stop feeling guilty!
The parents that I am meeting in August are mostly exhausted, sometimes angry and exasperated… Not too long ago, with 3 young children, I...
Children react to parents
“We think that children act, whereas what they mostly do is react”. (Dr. Gabor Maté) Our children react to the way we speak to them, to...
The freedom to choose
“Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power TO CHOOSE our response. In our response lies our GROWTH and...
Why can't they just listen?
“I always call her a thousand times” … “He never listens to me” ... “I repeat the same thing over and over” …. So many parents come to me...
Time-Out?
Mommy / Daddy, when you put me in time-out I feel so lonely…..I feel alone in the whole world, because YOU are MY WORLD, and when you...
Love is not enough
Parenting is hard work. For some it comes very easily and naturally. But for the majority of us, it entails a process of learning,...
Children see, Children do
Don't tell your children to be polite – Show them how you speak kindly to others. Don’t tell your children to share – Make sure they see...
Rewards are the same as Punishments
How do I teach my child to not hit his little brother, to tidy up after she made a mess, to speak respectfully, to just listen to me, to...
“Couples counseling” becomes “divorce counseling” when we wait too long…
The average couple waits 6 years before seeking help for marital issues. (The Gottman Institute) Unfortunately “couples counseling”...
Boundaries?
Parents frequently ask me to work on setting boundaries to their children and I definitely offer many tools on how to do that. Although...
The Quality of our Relationships
“The Harvard Grant Study – The longest longitudinal study ever undertaken (for more than 75 years) – concludes that the key to a happier...
Parenting Differences
All parents have parenting differences. A few guidelines on how to restrain those sometimes-complex situations: My favorite rule is “one...
Parenting is not about controlling your child
Parenting is not about controlling your child, it's about controlling yourself. Parenting is not about changing your child, it’s about...
Which kind of partner are you?
"Be the kind of partner you want your kid to have as their own partner one day" is probably the best advice I received from my own...
How do I parent my teenager??
Parents of teens sometimes feel confused, helpless, or “what used to work, doesn’t work anymore….”!! We definitely need to recalculate...
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