barbaraharcaviWhat is damaging to your relationship?The Gottman Institute identified 4 communication styles, that are extremely damaging to relationships, and actually predict with great...
barbaraharcaviStop making Children feel Bad"You can't teach children to behave better by making them feel worse. When Children feel better, they behave better”. (Pam Leo) So many...
barbaraharcaviCelebrate the Child you haveOne of the greatest lessons I learned in parenting is to let go of the child I thought I'll have, and CELEBRATE the one I have. We all...
barbaraharcaviRaising a Shy ChildHaving a “shy” child is a HUGE CONCERN for many parents… But we are all somewhere on the scale between extroversion and introversion,...
barbaraharcaviThe Quality of our Relationships“The Harvard Grant Study – The longest longitudinal study ever undertaken (for more than 75 years) – concludes that the key to a happier...
barbaraharcaviParenting DifferencesAll parents have parenting differences. A few guidelines on how to restrain those sometimes-complex situations: My favorite rule is “one...
barbaraharcaviParenting is not about controlling your childParenting is not about controlling your child, it's about controlling yourself. Parenting is not about changing your child, it’s about...
barbaraharcaviDo the best you can!Do the best you can until you know better. Then when you know better, do better” Maya Angelou Parenting is a process, a very long journey...
barbaraharcaviHow do I parent my teenager??Parents of teens sometimes feel confused, helpless, or “what used to work, doesn’t work anymore….”!! We definitely need to recalculate...
barbaraharcaviOur children are learning about relationships by watching usChildren learn about relationships by observing their parents. Think about your daily interactions with your partner: How do you disagree...
barbaraharcaviSleep when the baby sleeps...Sleep when the baby sleeps. Fold laundry when the baby folds laundry. I wanted to write 10 tips for the “new mom”, but I just realized...
barbaraharcaviLet's get married“Let's get married and have kids so instead of a lazy Saturday morning we can panic because a sports uniform didn't get put in the...
barbaraharcaviThe 2 buckets of our childrenBefore becoming a psychotherapist, Alfred Adler was a medical doctor that firmly believed in PREVENTION (instead of TREATMENT). Adlerian...
barbaraharcaviWhat you focus on growsYour child is a “fussy” eater… Focus on what he DOES eat and the few things he does ENJOY eating. Your children fight “all the time”…...