How do I teach my child to not hit his little brother, to tidy up after she made a mess, to speak respectfully, to just listen to me, to go to bed and stay in bed, to not make a scene every single time she needs to take a bath….?
We have all used threats, punished, sent to time out, taken away stuff they love… Some of us have also use sticker charts, bribery or other rewards… and you know what? Sometimes those things really work, although they usually do not persist on the long run.
I believe in teaching children about VALUES, by creating INTRINSIC MOTIVATION. I want to teach my child to CHOOSE how to behave, or what to do in a specific situation, because he/she knows it’s the right thing to do (and not because he/she expects a reward or tries to avoid a punishment). In order to do that, I need to teach my child about CONSEQUENCES.
If you are curious, or think it’s time to make a change in your parenting, feel free to give me a call.